Upgrade server deps (#10017)

* remove unused apn lib and upgrade moment-recur

* upgrade validator

* upgrade got

* request -> got

* fix validation

* fix tests

* upgrade nodemailer

* fix unit tests

* fix webhook tests, upgrade express-validator (using legacy api)

* upgrade js2xmlparser

* update misc packages

* fix linting

* update packages

test/api/v3/integration/webhook/PUT-user_update_webhook.test.js

@@ -34,7 +34,7 @@ describe('PUT /user/webhook/:id', () => {
   });
 
   it('returns an error if validation fails', async () => {
-    await expect(user.put(`/user/webhook/${webhookToUpdate.id}`, { url: 'foo', enabled: true })).to.eventually.be.rejected.and.eql({
+    await expect(user.put(`/user/webhook/${webhookToUpdate.id}`, { url: 'foo_invalid', enabled: true })).to.eventually.be.rejected.and.eql({
       code: 400,
       error: 'BadRequest',
       message: 'User validation failed',